Yes and no.
If you do go the marriage counseling route, keep in mind that 5 out of 6 so called marriage counselors are worthless.
What I've found that works the best is the program by Dr Willard Harley at
www.marriagebuilders.com (I think I put the URL here, MODs? I don't think it goes against the TOS)
He formalizes what has been said here, a united front.
He calls it the Policy of Joint Agreement. Neither you, nor your wife do anything without ENTHUSIASTIC agreement by the other. That would include discipline.
He also calls for 15 hours/week of interrupted time together. (Undivided attention. No kids, no TV, no movies. Doing things together that you each like.) That means a sitter and getting out with your wife similar to how you were when you were married.
Now before you say you can't do that because of this reason or that, perhaps you need to look at how you CAN begin to adopt his method. Work with friends or others if you can't afford a sitter. I.E. we'll watch your kids a couple nights a week if you watch ours a couple nites a week, etc.
But I would be careful about who you get for professional help. As I said, 5 out 6 counselors are simply about making happy individuals, which may come at the cost of the marriage and family. Dr Harley is about building a happy marriage, which in-turn produces happy individuals and well reared children.
Originally Posted By: Pop_Rivit
Seeing some of the comments here should make you realize why this is the last place to come for marriage advice. There are a lot of marital losers who know nothing about maintaining a life long spousal relationship.
You and your wife are feeling a lot of tension, and it's time to get some professional help and guidance. Your family is the most important thing in your life, and it's time to invest in it to keep it intact. This is not the time to get some advice from a motor oil forum from people who haven't been able to hold their own relationships together. The world doesn't need any more dysfunctional families, and you're headed down that path.
Your church is a great place to start. There are often outstanding parenting and marriage classes available. If that's not an option, there are some great professional counselors available. If you're really interesting in saving your marriage, it's worth the financial investment.
And for reference, I've only been married once and it's lasted 40 years. My wife is my best friend, soul mate and the most incredible person I know.