Chris,
Let's start at the beginning:
Land Rover's inflation spec of 28 / 46 is extremely unusual. Even though the 255/55R18's are Extra Load, the rear inflation spec is 5 psi above the load limit inflation pressure. This says to me that Land Rover is juggling the pressure to get a particular vehicle handling characteristic - probably understeer.
So let's look at the inflation pressures you were using - 31 / 41. Increasing the front pressure decreases understeer, and lowering the rear does the same. Now while I personally prefer a crisper steering response, I increase the inflation pressure on all the tires equally, with the idea of not changing (much) the overall understeering characteristics of the vehicle.
But changing the tire size from a 109 Load Index to a 107 Load Index moves us closer to the saturation point of the tire. Perhaps I ought to explain that.
Emergency maneuvers, tend to be in areas of the tire were the tire's response to steering input is non-linear. This makes the vehicle's response less predictable. It turns out that the more heavily loaded a tire is, the less linear it is and at some point, the tire doesn't respond at all to input - it is said to be "saturated". So vehicle manufacturers have been gradually oversizing tires to stay more in the linear region of the tire.
So looking at all that has been done: 3 steps toward less understeer - on an SUV this is not a good thing - a sideways SUV tends to rollover.
But your current tires are wearing in the center - but is that only on the rear tires? Needless to say, tires that are highly inflated (or lightly loaded for the inflation pressure) tend to wear more in the center. But looking at the whole vehicle - front and rear - is the wear more or less even? Remember, Europeans aren't interested in the tire wear - grip is their thing. Perhaps that is why you didn't like the Goodyear's?
Also, tires are designed around a combination of load and inflation - which is what tire load tables are about. Put another way, The basic construction of a tire may be designed to a maximum load / inflation combination, but the wear/ride/handling characteristics are more or less independent of that.
Which brings me back to your current tires. I am very concerned that you seem to be 3 steps further away from understeer on an SUV. Of particular concern is the rear tire inflation. If I've done the math correctly, the equivalent inflation pressure for your current set up is 31 / 49. Hopefully your tires are marked as 51 psi, but this is still way high.
What I'd recomend is going to a larger Load Index, but your rims are going to be a limiting factor.