ok guys, i am thinking of owning a gun (pistol) for the 1st time. Never owned, and never learned to shoot. Purpose will be just my own safety. What would be a good, dependable starter gun for me, which is not too $$$ and easy to shoot, yet effective, and can be used also by wifey if needed? I am not a big guy really, but have strong fingers and hands for my size I think. any info/feedback and tips are very welcome. PS: oh, I like German things. so a German make would be an added bonus, if it fits other criteria i mentioned above.