I've always wondered how people cope with different [big] stressors in their life and emerge out of it. Death of a close one, loss of a relationship or job, the darkest part of your life...etc. How do you guys push through the bad spots in your life?
I tend to cope with the bad spots in life by just forgetting about them. Whether or not my coping method is the best, it works for me.
"Everything that has happened, is happening and will happen is all for a reason". Whether we know what such reasons are is up to us through the allocation of our collective life experiences.
Death? Inevitable. It is something that we as humans overlook due to arrogance and ignorance. When we lose a loved one it comes as a total shock. I lost my father when I was 19, this coming Sunday will make it 11 years, he had a cardiac arrest while we were playing hockey. When someone dies it never is easy because of all of the connections we establish with them and the impact they have left on us. Not seeing someone physically is hard and it it the part we miss the most. If you keep loved ones in your mind and heart, they'll never die, the soul is eternal the body never was.
Talk to your loved ones if you miss someone that has passed, holding it in is not thee right thing to do and you may lash out on those around you whom you also love.
Bad times? Those are apart of life. Show me someone who has lived a live without hardships. Buddha, Krishna and Christ, even though they hold divine status were all given hardships and were tested by the world itself. We are humans, we directly and indirectly cause one another pain but we also give love, respect and kindness as well. I call hardships "temporary inconveniences" because they are not forever and if they exist then naturally there is a solution to them other wise they would not exist to begin with. Nothing in this life is forever, that's why you should cherish your loved ones and tell them you love them and appreciate them.
Loss of a job? Relationship ending? Loss of a friend or prized position? This is just God/The Universe telling us everything in life is temporary and nothing is forever and that we are only human in the grand scheme of things. Again love an appreciate those around while they are present. Let those stupid arguments slide and let your ego know that it's only as big as it thinks it is. To the world you're just somebody but to somebody you're the world!
Sadness and happiness are two different sides of the same coin brother. Happiness is a state of mind that YOU choose, when yoou relaize that no one can take it away from you no matter how hard they try. Do not avoid memories of hardships, you never forget anything, you can't bury something that isn't dead. Let it make you stronger, let it remind you that you are human and that you loved and were attached and there's nothing wrong with that.
No amount of regret can change the past and no amount of anxiety can change the future. You don't have to be religious to live in peace, everyone is different. Instead of doing more damage to yourself when you are sad etc, such as drinking, smoking and so forth, go to the gym, volunteer at a charity of your place, contribute to forums, give back to the world around you. Forgetting is for the arrogant and ignorant. Don't let terrible moments define you or break you, no, let them help build you into something more great.
The beauty of us humans is that we persevere through all hardships! Don't be a slave to your mind and sit in despair, there's no time like the present my friend! Enjoy this life and make the most of every second, don't waste it lamenting over things and people you cannot control. You are your worst enemy and your own best friend. You can't control the winds but you sure can set the sails.
