Originally Posted By: dishdude
What if you offer to clean up after she cooks? Let her go relax and watch TV or read a book.
She wont let it happen, not as easy as it sounds. I do clean the pots, only when shes not home and i pretty much have to put the pots away in the cupboard after. If she sees it, she will rewash it no matter who washes them. Just the thought of having people at her sink using it, is dirtying it up and she doesnt like. She wont even let her sisters or anyone when theyre over use her sink unless its for like 2 secs to rinse a cup.
Originally Posted By: JimPghPA
What if you put in a hidden video camera connected to a computer with enough hard-drive to record 24 hours non-stop. And then showed her a time laps video of her-self?
Do you think that might get through to her?
Tried it, doesnt work, she just doesnt see the light.
Originally Posted By: cmorr
I want to preface my questions/comments by stating that I have severe Mental Illness in my own family (my son) . I am very sensitive and very much aware of how others view, or don't acknowledge, the seriousness of issue.
I read your post a couple of times and am wondering if there are a few exaggerations (ex. $1400 monthly water bill). Is there a possibility that a third party could view her behavior independent of your own.
There is a chance that the rest of your family is in denial but I think I good next step would be to have her behavior assessed by a professional perhaps under the guise of seeing yourself.
The $1400 water bill is real, my dad told me. The only way I can get a prof. to see her is if I bring her in the house without my mom knowing what the person is there for otherwise she would not let it happen.
Originally Posted By: KB2008X
Carnoobie, there are many reasons that a person will not seek help for a problem such as this.
Sometimes they know they have a problem, but.....
they don't want to spend the money to get help.
they don't have the money to spend.
they don't trust that the help they'll receive will be effective.
they don't want to lay their life open for others to see.
they are ashamed they have the issue.
they believe they deserve it and will deal with it themselves.
I could give more examples, but you get the idea. Do one, or more, of these fit the situation ?
There are a fair number of knowledgeable and experienced people here that could probably offer more tangible assistance if they had an understanding of why she refuses help.
Do you have any insight into that ?
Keith
None of those fit, she flat out doesnt acknowledge that she has a disorder and needs help. She thinks what shes doing is normal and will not even be open to talking about it or willing to listen when you try to bring the topic up.