browsing bitog while sitting next to my dying grandmother. She is completely in a vegetable state. Can’t blink, talk, move, only instinctually breath. She’s on hospice at home. I have been taking care of her for years but these last few months she has needed almost 24/7 care. You try and make her as comfortable as possible but its tough as you can only guess on her needs based on experience with her when she was able to talk.
Here I sit…
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Stay by her side and talk to her. Trust me, she can hear you and knows you're there.
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We will say a special prayer for her tonight.
I am sorry to hear about your grandmother. She is lucky to have you there with her.
Prayers sent.
Prayers sent.
You did the right thing. Not just for her but for yourself aswell. I think this will give you closure and let you give the experience it's proper place. It's always hard to lose people that were a major part of your life though.
Yeah. Ive lived with her since 2003
I'm very sorry to hear about your grandmother passing - it's always difficult.
As an aside, I've watched quite a few loved ones decline and suffer for significantly long periods of time with no quality of life, or they were essentially been gone for a long time but their body kept going - it can be very undignified. It's an absolute travesty that people are forced to keep going with an emphasis on maintaining their "dignity" but they do not have the agency to decide how and when they pass IF that's what they want. Some people will want every last second but many suffer unnecessarily.
As an aside, I've watched quite a few loved ones decline and suffer for significantly long periods of time with no quality of life, or they were essentially been gone for a long time but their body kept going - it can be very undignified. It's an absolute travesty that people are forced to keep going with an emphasis on maintaining their "dignity" but they do not have the agency to decide how and when they pass IF that's what they want. Some people will want every last second but many suffer unnecessarily.
Yeah. She wanted to be given euthanasia but NY state is not one of the states that offer it. So she just had to hang on to the end.
We here may wonder why we are here. .I know my Lord has a purpose for me and my dear wife. We watch our 2 grand daughters. One.is 8 and one is 16 months old. I know that is why we are still here. They need the perspective on life that only grandparents can give them. We love them dearly and they know it. Chi!dren need that secure love that only grandparents can provide..
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We are so very deeply sorry for your loss. My grandmother was truly my best friend.
I am so very sorry for your loss. While it’s hard to watch, you being at her side was a blessing, for both of you.
