Hardest Things To Do In Life
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Yep turning someones light off is extreme. I bought my son a decent used car and helped him pay for his driving license (over 2K in Germany), the next year my daughter asked me for a motorcycle and license and I had to say no.
I told her I would do the same for her as my son but not a bike, I could never live with myself when she got into an accident. Things are still difficult 5 years on with her, she thinks I played favorites.
I told her I would do the same for her as my son but not a bike, I could never live with myself when she got into an accident. Things are still difficult 5 years on with her, she thinks I played favorites.
I would give my kids the same answer.
Thankfully, my son never wanted to play football or buy a motorcycle, but I was prepared to tell him no. His mother told him there was no way we were paying for him to get into parachuting.
When I was 12, my dad made me take our beloved elderly dog to the neighbors and load him in back of their truck so they could take him to the woods and put him down for us. Dad wasn't being cruel, he just couldn't be home in time to do it himself.
When I was 12, my dad made me take our beloved elderly dog to the neighbors and load him in back of their truck so they could take him to the woods and put him down for us. Dad wasn't being cruel, he just couldn't be home in time to do it himself.
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Few things haunt me after 21 years as LE. Taking the helmet off a 21 year old kid who I knew was dead after hitting a tree is one. Guys on bikes will get it.
Another is how nasty a compound fracture of legs bones are.
No bikes for my kids.
My son living 110 miles away.
Walking away from a crawfish boil.
Not going to the annual Cochon de lait (https://cochondelaitfestival.com/index.html).
Poop without peeing. Can't do it.
Trav and Zee09...
A family member making a decision to end life supportive care is not you or yourself or individually ending another's life on this Earth. It is you understanding that without serious, very serious medical intervention that your family member would pass away anyway. And also you totally understanding that there is truly no way forward that your loved one will ever have any ability to recover to any degree that would result in a life that your loved one would ever want to live in.
In your cases it is nothing you all should feel guilty or bad about. . . Never should you all feel that way.
Never.
You are good men ... Who did the best you could do. You did not do anything wrong at all.
You acted with tremendous love, thought, and consideration.
I have been in the place.... Numerous times where I have had to administer IV morphine and or by mouth morphine and ativan to a patient. Knowing full well if given too quickly the patient would soon pass away. I gave a 46 yr old patient 6 mg of IV morphine and I pushed it exceptionally slow over 8 minutes... Knowing if I did it in the standard time of 2-3 minutes she might well pass away almost immediately. She did pass away 30 minutes later.
I had to go home feeling like I did the right thing... And that I did it the right way... I never wanted to feel like I did something to where I thought I had done something in a way to where I had rushed or brought an end to a person's life in a wrong way. I could not imagine holding a syringe and because I was in way too big a rush or hurry I had pushed a IV medication way too quickly... And that person pass away and I would be standing right there having done that...
Been a good number of times I have been in that place...
Where I was the last one... There with a patient...
But I know.... In my heart, soul and conscience... I did it in the best and right way I could do. Every time.
Having to put your dog to sleep is right up there. With a dog as the owner you are 100% responsible for the dog. Making a decision for a loved one is also difficult but you are not responsible in the same way.
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Very sad indeed.
I also had the feeling of a dementia or Alzheimer's patient with this as that is what happens.
Remember tomorrow brings a new day. Keep your chin up my friend.
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We all have different struggles. Hard is difficult to define.
"pulling the plug" is many times easier to do than you may think. Why make someone anguish and suffer because we have the medical ability to "keep them alive".
I have made the decision several times, and while sad to see the loved one go, the relief of knowing they are no longer suffering is a better feeling.
As with @bbhero, there have been many times that I am the last one to be with the person "alive". It is a hard decision to make, but the right decision for all that I have been at.
It is even harder to see those family members that refuse to make the decision to let someone go that is in extreme pain and suffering or is literally rotting away, just because they can't let go (or even worse, those that are obtaining financial gain from that person still being "alive").
Dementia and Alzheimer's is much harder to deal with IMO. For the person with the disease, they are always in a state of unknown, and that can be very frightening for them. For the caregiver, watching the continual decline and the constant repeating of identical questions is frustrating, weary, and exhausting.
As for those that say no to a motorcycle license, I went with my daughter to her riders course. I got my license when I was 15, I figure her at 19, she is way more mature than I was, and risk is just part of life. She ended up not finishing the course and does not have a desire to get her motorcycle license at this time.
"pulling the plug" is many times easier to do than you may think. Why make someone anguish and suffer because we have the medical ability to "keep them alive".
I have made the decision several times, and while sad to see the loved one go, the relief of knowing they are no longer suffering is a better feeling.
As with @bbhero, there have been many times that I am the last one to be with the person "alive". It is a hard decision to make, but the right decision for all that I have been at.
It is even harder to see those family members that refuse to make the decision to let someone go that is in extreme pain and suffering or is literally rotting away, just because they can't let go (or even worse, those that are obtaining financial gain from that person still being "alive").
Dementia and Alzheimer's is much harder to deal with IMO. For the person with the disease, they are always in a state of unknown, and that can be very frightening for them. For the caregiver, watching the continual decline and the constant repeating of identical questions is frustrating, weary, and exhausting.
As for those that say no to a motorcycle license, I went with my daughter to her riders course. I got my license when I was 15, I figure her at 19, she is way more mature than I was, and risk is just part of life. She ended up not finishing the course and does not have a desire to get her motorcycle license at this time.
Watching my Mother die of ALS. 3 years, flat on her back, unable to even scratch her nose. She never once complained.
Public speaking according to most researches.
Going down to her attorney's office and signing the divorce decree.
I think those of us in healthcare who have dealt with this, have a different take on death, and life. Making that decision in hopelessly terminal situations is not easy for some, and they are not the ones causing the death. Its allowing nature to take its course.
I had to have some very frank descriptive discussions with my father, to help him understand why he needed DNR instructions for my 99yo grandmother when she was in the hospital. I am not advocating suicide. There are things worse that death.
I don't fear death and i see and accept it as a natural event( except for suicide and murder). Seeing death also helps me appreciate the gift of life.
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