Hi.
The information you heard about higher octane burning slower and longer is misleading. It is all about the compression ratio of the engine. If you have a high compression engine, you need high octane gas. We are talking usually, within the limits of today's operating environments, 11.0:1 and up. You will also need to use a high octane fuel if you are using a forced induction engine, as they compression ratio is automatically kicked up when larger amounts of air enter the chamber.
HTSS_TR is correct. Fuel dilution is the same regardless of octane. What affects that rate is the condition of your engine, not the gas or the oil. If your engine has badly worn cylinders, or improperly installed and tensioned rings, you will see an increase in fuel dilution because of the lack of optimum sealing and a large amount of blow by entering the oil. Although it is becoming a rare occurrence today because of the qualities of fuel available, your injectors and combustion chamber are as clean as the combustion process itself. The oil plays a part in keeping you engine lubricated, and also helps to keep it clean.
If you are worried about fuel dilution, it is only a common occurrence in poorly made and maintained engines. Yours doesn't seem that way, so don't worry about it. Using higher octane will not decrease fuel dilution and vice versa.