I think that either you mis-understood him, or he was mis-informed.
It is not unheard of, to use gear oil in place of ATF in transfer cases or manual transmissions, where ATF is the specified fluid.
Although I do not subscribe to such practices, some people are stuck in the "thicker is better" mentality. This in mind, I suspect he was referring to using gear oil in place of ATF in such applications. Perhaps he mis-stated the concept, and confused the direction of application.
But I've
NEVER heard of using ATF in place of gear oil in a differential for general automotive serive. Absolutely a bad idea.

It is possible that some of the extreme off-road vehicles do this as a practice. I'm not much into the off-road sports, so I'd can't comment for sure. Perhaps the ultra slow speeds and extreme angles of rock-crawling might lend themselves to a "need" for a lighter oil that would flow a bit better; I truly don't know. But for everyday "normal" vehicle use and serivce, ATF does not belong in the diff's.
If you're looking for premium performance and servicability, consider a "synthetic" GL-5 fluid; you'll get a bit better temperature performance, and much longer fluid life (well past 30K miles). I'll let the others argue which brand is "best", but any GL-5 rated fluid will suffice; some out-perform others. If you are
committed to changing diff fluid every 30k miles or less, even dino fluids would work well, as there are plenty of good brands to choose from.