In the winter time, I usually just go to a DIY power washing car wash and hose it off. Mostly for the salt. The paint on my Mazda after almost 5 years looked so good because, IMO, I never took it to the car wash and during the winter it would go long periods of time without being washed. In many ways not touching the paint at all may be better than over washing the car.
What is "over washing"? What frequency is "over washing"?
For contact type carwashes, Over washing is when you reach the point that you do not need to sand your car before painting it, just mask it, wipe it down, then shoot it. This is more noticeable on darker colored cars. I noticed the late model black Cadillac hearses at my mother in laws funeral a few days ago, were severely over washed. Back in the 70's we called these angel hair scratches.
As far as what frequency is over washing, like once a week, too many variables. If your car is dark in color and you notice the scratches in the sun, you are overwashed.