I've heard one analogy/method.
With your hands oily/dirty from the oil change, use your oiled/slippery hand, and snug the filter on, to the point your hand slides off the filter.
That's about all it takes......
But yea, all cars are different.
I'd be worried about ruining threads, or even the gasket with it "too tight".....good point about the ADBV too....
And yes, I've heard of those mishaps.....needing to stab screw driver through the filter to torque it off.....then you're really screwed :P Cause you BETTER get it off, or else you can't drive the car at all with a whole going through the filter :P