One of my co-workers had a mother who was making a large order of food for some shindig. Supposedly she had made more than was needed so she came to work and offered plates of a home cooked meal for $5. I think its pretty cheesy to try and pass things off on co-workers but Im also a single guy and pretty busy so homecooked meals are rare. Anyway, I purchased a plate of food that was delivered early this afternoon.
Anyway, a friend of mine heard about it and I guess the main course was a dish he really liked and he started bugging me to let him have it. He was calling me names for not sharing and this went on for some time. Finally I offered to sell the meal to him for the $5 that I paid and of course he wasnt interested. He kept on harrassing me and calling me a buster for not sharing until finally I said fine if you need it that bad then take the whole thing.
His response was, "I win".
I dont know why but Im kind of upset about this and think that Ive lost a friend. Its only a $5 meal and it shouldnt bother me but the fact that it was a homecooked meal which is rare for me and a bit of a treat sort of made it special. The fact that he said, "I win" instead of thank you leads me to believe that he assumes that Im a fool who can be taken advantage of if you beg me enough.
I dont really know why Im bothered by this but I sort of am. After he said, I win like it was a contest to see if he could take advantage of our friendship I sort of felt that I would rather have flushed $5 down the toilet than given him the meal. If he won then doesnt that mean that I lost?
Im seriously getting where I dont like to do nice things for people because its not appreciated. I feel that my heart is hardening every time something like this happens. I feel that I should be able to buy myself a meal without friends wanting to take it.
I seriously am not the type of person that wants to buy a meal share it with others and then eat the leftovers. Maybe thats selfish but thats how it goes. If I buy myself a meal then its for me. If I buy you a meal then its for you. I get upset when I buy myself something and others want me to share. I just dont want to buy a meal and then get the leftovers from it. I have visions of being in a dorm when the pizza man comes and then having half the floor magically drop by for a visit hoping to scam a slice. In college it took me about 2 weeks to learn that if you wanted Pizza then you had to go out to get it. Because if you ordered delivery then youd be lucky to get 2 slice of the pie.
I dont know why this bothers me but it does. I hate losing a friend over a $5 meal and yet it seems to run deeper. Its like he feels that I owe it to him to share and hes going to hound me until I give in to what he wants. Everytime I do something nice hes there to beg a part in sharing. If I buy a DVD he wants to borrow it. If I travel to go see a game then he wants to go but not share in the gas. Im going anyway and Im a buster if I dont let him tag along. What is a buster anyway? Hes becoming a serious mooch and it bothers me. He makes a good living and in fact his paycheck is probably bigger than mine. I live a thousand times more modest than he does in fact I probably live more modest than anybody you can imagine. I dont have to live modest but I want to be worthy of a family if ever I should attract one. Because I live modest doesnt mean that I should be a charitable organization for others that dont.
I usually try to be 3X as generous as my friends but I hate people feeling that I can be taken advantage of because Im soft.
Right now, I want to scream and throw things and maybe Bitog is a good place to get this off my chest. I seriously feel that I played the fool both in buying the meal and then giving it away.
Oh Well.......
Life maches on. I lost $5 and I lost a friend. $5 is easy to come by and maybe I will have more room in my life for a friend that sees me as interesting rather than as lunch money. You live. You learn.
Sorry for my whine. Usually I want people around me to be happy.
Happy Motoring All,
Bugshu
Anyway, a friend of mine heard about it and I guess the main course was a dish he really liked and he started bugging me to let him have it. He was calling me names for not sharing and this went on for some time. Finally I offered to sell the meal to him for the $5 that I paid and of course he wasnt interested. He kept on harrassing me and calling me a buster for not sharing until finally I said fine if you need it that bad then take the whole thing.
His response was, "I win".
I dont know why but Im kind of upset about this and think that Ive lost a friend. Its only a $5 meal and it shouldnt bother me but the fact that it was a homecooked meal which is rare for me and a bit of a treat sort of made it special. The fact that he said, "I win" instead of thank you leads me to believe that he assumes that Im a fool who can be taken advantage of if you beg me enough.
I dont really know why Im bothered by this but I sort of am. After he said, I win like it was a contest to see if he could take advantage of our friendship I sort of felt that I would rather have flushed $5 down the toilet than given him the meal. If he won then doesnt that mean that I lost?
Im seriously getting where I dont like to do nice things for people because its not appreciated. I feel that my heart is hardening every time something like this happens. I feel that I should be able to buy myself a meal without friends wanting to take it.
I seriously am not the type of person that wants to buy a meal share it with others and then eat the leftovers. Maybe thats selfish but thats how it goes. If I buy myself a meal then its for me. If I buy you a meal then its for you. I get upset when I buy myself something and others want me to share. I just dont want to buy a meal and then get the leftovers from it. I have visions of being in a dorm when the pizza man comes and then having half the floor magically drop by for a visit hoping to scam a slice. In college it took me about 2 weeks to learn that if you wanted Pizza then you had to go out to get it. Because if you ordered delivery then youd be lucky to get 2 slice of the pie.
I dont know why this bothers me but it does. I hate losing a friend over a $5 meal and yet it seems to run deeper. Its like he feels that I owe it to him to share and hes going to hound me until I give in to what he wants. Everytime I do something nice hes there to beg a part in sharing. If I buy a DVD he wants to borrow it. If I travel to go see a game then he wants to go but not share in the gas. Im going anyway and Im a buster if I dont let him tag along. What is a buster anyway? Hes becoming a serious mooch and it bothers me. He makes a good living and in fact his paycheck is probably bigger than mine. I live a thousand times more modest than he does in fact I probably live more modest than anybody you can imagine. I dont have to live modest but I want to be worthy of a family if ever I should attract one. Because I live modest doesnt mean that I should be a charitable organization for others that dont.
I usually try to be 3X as generous as my friends but I hate people feeling that I can be taken advantage of because Im soft.
Right now, I want to scream and throw things and maybe Bitog is a good place to get this off my chest. I seriously feel that I played the fool both in buying the meal and then giving it away.
Oh Well.......
Life maches on. I lost $5 and I lost a friend. $5 is easy to come by and maybe I will have more room in my life for a friend that sees me as interesting rather than as lunch money. You live. You learn.
Sorry for my whine. Usually I want people around me to be happy.
Happy Motoring All,
Bugshu