Ahhhhh....there's the "judge"...congratulations.
When you have no legal recourse, all modes of contact are blocked, threatened that if I ring the doorbell, the Police will be there before my finger leaves the button...and then they are now 24 hours drive away in a "secret" location, what exactly are you suggesting would be an honorable course of action ?
Last words from my daughter were in July 2020, in a chance mall encounter "Love you too Dady"...and nothing since.
Last words from my sone were in August 2020, again in a mall encounter "Leave me alone, you wouldn't understand"...then spun on his heal...and then erasure from all media.