I read Ranger fora because I own an '05 Ranger with the 4.0l and 5R55E transmission. One guy posted about his resisting separation from the engine (he just needed more oomph).
One caveat repeatedly mentioned is making certain the TC is seated before joining the 2. It sets into place in the bell housing and you revolve it. You'll see/feel and hear it settle into place. NO PART of the TC should be visible from the side. If the TC is not seated you'll break the pump as you tighten the engine and transmission together.
late edit: I've never read anything about these units routinely having troubles @100K. The battle cry is, "Keep the fluid clean and you can get the 300K." The more knowledgeable crowd says they swear by external coolers. Mine (FX4) came with one.
Also, the valve body mounting plate is one piece (incl. gasket) now. Any 2 piece VB plate is ancient stock and is a NOGO (superseded).