Find an auto parts store that shares space in a shopping strip/plaza and park in the center of the parking lot away from everyone. They each will think it’s the other persons problem so no one will say anything.
Don’t ask me if I do this.
I’d rather choke on my own vomit than step into a dealership. It’s surprising to me how the old business model has lasted so long. Hope things change soon.
If under warranty I’d go with OEM made in Indonesia. They sell it al Walmart (ending in 21A). Outside of warranty use whatever from any of the major auto parts stores.
I’m on many forums and read about neighbor issues far too often. I myself have them. I’ve come to learn most people suck. It’s just a matter of when the suck comes out.
Good luck to you, OP.